Friday, January 18, 2008
I am astonished by the kind and perceptive comments that all of you are sending me. It’s not possible to answer each one, but I want you to know how grateful I am for what you are writing.
Realizing that I am striking a chord that resonates to so many people made me think about something Linda Kohanov wrote recently. Linda is the author of some wonderful books, among them “The Tao of Equus”. She has a great website: taoofequus.com, with a monthly newsletter. This month in it, she talks about the concept of “intersubjectivity”.
This is the word that she uses to describe what happens when someone creates something or expresses some idea which touches other people in a way that makes them feel connected and validated. Horses have an ability to make us more honest and authentic. Silk and Siete constantly keep me aware of what is going on in both my heart and my head. That’s what I mean by “inner horse wisdom”.
In an earlier newsletter, Kohanov was asked what the message of the horse is. She replied, “Before you decide what should or shouldn’t happen, notice what is happening, and based on that information, align with what wants to happen next.” Horses stay in the moment. While I am with my horses, I might be worrying about how I’ll find time to go to the grocery store or replaying the conversation I just had with my husband or wishing that my daughter studied more for her math test. It all boils around inside me, and when I lead Siete to the pasture, she acts up, prancing and misbehaving. She brings me right back to earth, reminding me to let it go and focus on what is going on here at this moment. I am aware of the wet icy ground under my feet, the wind blowing and the spirited horse attached to my hand by a 3 foot long rope. It scares me a little, but I have no choice but to face it and deal. What happens next is that Siete and I dance our way inside the gate. I make her wait while I take a deep breath. When she calms down,I let her go and watch her fly.