Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Love In Loss

I am so grateful for your kind and compassionate comments. They are really helping me get through this incredibly difficult time of grieving. There’s a huge hole in our lives right now where Pepper lived so gracefully. Every time I turn around, I am reminded of her. Siete has really stepped up to offer me some strong emotional support. I don’t think I’ve been this upset since my father died. For 14 years, Pepper has been my constant companion, especially in the difficult moments when I needed a soft furry doggo buddy to hold and to offer me love.
A friend sent me this quote yesterday and I wanted to share it with you.

Thanks to all of you for your understanding and support.

"To live a meaningful life, each of us must step outside the familiar, confining walls of ego defenses and enter our own wilderness, our own charnel ground, to face honestly the truth of impermanence and loss. In the strange cemetery of imagination, mourning ourselves, we suddenly stumble upon what’s most essential. Facing loss, we find love."

–Lorne Ladner, from The Lost Art of Compassion (HarperSanFrancisco)


Mrs Mom said...

Pepper had a wonderful life with you doting on her Victoria! I am so glad she was with you for all those years, knowing love and care that goes above and beyond.

She'll see you again, I'm sure! ;)

Lori Skoog said...

A beautiful quote Victoria. I hope that someday you will want to get another dog that can be there when you need those doggo hugs. You have a very full life and that kind of support is priceless.

Dusty Devoe said...

I just found out you lost your beloved Pepper. I am so sorry for your loss. It is never easy losing our babies. Just take one day at a time. I am thinking of you. Hugs.

detroit dog said...

Great quote.

big hugs.

John and Regina Zdravich said...

I have not been able to blog or read blogs lately, and just read this post about Pepper. I certainly understand your feelings. It is so difficult to lose a pet... it certainly is a lot like losing a family member. But I am sure that Pepper was happy with her life and the love you gave her.....

Grey Horse Matters said...

A wonderful quote that will help you get through this difficult time.
Even though Pepper is physically gone from your lives, she will always be with you.

Janet Roper said...

Thinking of all of you during this difficult time. Pepper was very special and dear, the pictures say it all. Sending you
Hugs & Harmony,

Jim Quinlan said...

The pure and simple love we get from our beloved pets makes it difficult when we lose them. They are such good friends.

I'm sorry to hear about Pepper and our hearts go out to you.


Callie said...

Oh, I'm so sorry to read of your loss of Pepper, I'm getting to this a bit late, I had been busy. So, so sorry. She'll be in your heart forever.

Nor’dzin said...

So sorry to hear that Pepper has died. I still sometimes miss my dog who died 10 years ago. Pepper was loved and knew this and that is the best gift you can give an animal.

marymartha said...

I am so very sorry for you loss of Pepper.
I understand how much losing a beloved animal hurts. Take comfort in knowing you gave her life of love and care. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I am sending my favorite excerpt from Mary Oliver's poem, Blackwater Woods. I hope it will bring you a bit of comfort. Peace be with you.

"Every year everything
I have ever learned in my lifetime
leads back to this: the fires
and the black river of loss
whose other side is salvation,
whose meaning none of us will ever know.

To live in this world
you must be able
to do three things:
to love what is mortal;
to hold it against your bones knowing
your own life depends on it;
and, when the time comes to let it go,
to let it go."

Mary Oliver

embee said...

It's so sad to lose a canine companion - they become such an integral part of the family.
Thinking of you - best wishes.

LJB said...

I'm sorry for your loss, Victoria. How glorious to have shared these years with your beloved canine companion. Her presence is always available despite the pain of missing her living body. Hugs.